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rayvyn2k ([personal profile] rayvyn2k) wrote2006-10-03 08:26 pm
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When it rains...

First I have to say we had a delightful visit with my mom and her hubby last night. I got to see Adam and Nicole's new apartment. It's really nice.

Tonight when I got home from work, my future SIL called. My MIL is now in the hospital in intensive care. When we visited on Sunday, she was having episodes of hallucinations...feeling "bugs" crawling on her, etc. She had also thought someone was in her bedroom the night before.

Today, she did not recognize anyone and she was still feeling things crawling all over her. Also, still seeing things and people in her house, room, etc. So, they took her to the hospital and she was admitted to intensive care. The doctor says she is detoxing. She apparently has been drinking for years--and hiding it very well, I might add--and once she could no longer get her own beverages, she was forced to quit cold turkey which caused the hallucinations. Also, she has a severe vitiman deficiancy, a urinary tract infection, is dehydrated and assorted other things I can't remember.

Hubby is withdrawing into himself. I am trying to keep him from curling into a little ball, and myself too. He has very complicated feelings about his mother and her illness. She was very cruel to him for many years...literally belittling him and everything he cared about for his entire life. When I met him he had such low self-esteem it was tragic to me since he is such a smart, witty, loving, talented person. So, his mother's illness is proving to be troublesome for him since he's really disliked her for so long. But he loves her, too--you know?

Anyway, tomorrow we had already planned to go to Lebanon so I can see a doctor about the pain I've been having for about a month in my heel...and I am going to suggest going to visit her while we're there. I hope he will agree.

So, things are sad and quiet in our house tonight...

[identity profile] starbb.livejournal.com 2006-10-04 03:04 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry. *hugs*

[identity profile] rayvyn2k.livejournal.com 2006-10-05 02:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks.

[identity profile] krysstylanthrox.livejournal.com 2006-10-04 10:59 am (UTC)(link)
My dad has/had issues with his mother for a very difficult life. We've also proven she did have mental illness of some form or fashion. Dad never made peace with Grandma before she passed. He has regrets, questions, confusion, hurt... That is something painful he has to live with every day of his life, and he (along with those of us that love him) wish that it could have been different.

Parents are always complicated to deal with, even if you love them and have a good relationship with them.

[identity profile] rayvyn2k.livejournal.com 2006-10-05 02:46 pm (UTC)(link)
You are right about that. I have a "complicated" relationship with my own mother, so I know what he's going through right now.

[identity profile] islandsmoke.livejournal.com 2006-10-04 12:58 pm (UTC)(link)
If she was willing to go cold turkey rather than ask someone to get her something, she has some serious denial issues. The family, but specially Hubby, might due well to see a therapist for a few visits. Relationships with parents can be tough enough to sort out without this added complication. No harm in getting a little help.

{{{{hugs to both}}}}

[identity profile] rayvyn2k.livejournal.com 2006-10-05 02:48 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't think she realized that she would lose her ability to obtain her own beverages, if you know what I mean.

And my FIL found stashes of empty bottles all over the house. No one was aware of the severity of the problem.

I suggested therapy to my husband yesterday...but I doubt if he'll go for it. I'll be posting an update in a minute...

(Anonymous) 2006-10-05 03:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Ray I am so sorry about your MIL. Poor G must have a lot of things going on in his mind right now. If you need to talk, just call ok? Shanni